A Single Dad on MySpace!

I just added a post to my MySpace blog. Check it out if you get a chance.

I'll give you a little snapshot on my life as a Single Dad. My wife and I split up when Jameson was 2. We tried a couple of times to make it work and eventually divorced when he was 4. Like most divorces it wasn't pleasant but to our credit we both decided to put our differences aside and put his needs in front of ours. That made for some interesting choices.

We had joint custody and agreed that if at all possible we would live within 15 miles of each other. We also decided that we would trade off having him each week rather then the traditional weekends and holidays. This was one of the best decisions we ever made, because it forced both of us to be parents. I didn't want to be just the cool weekend dad. I needed to be part of his life during the week when schoolwork and daily living needed to get done, etc. That didn't mean I stopped being a guy (to this day he still eats much healthier at his mom's). It also provided him with some stability.

The key to making this work has always been that we put his needs in front of our own. That has made all the difference. There is an old saying that "it takes 2 to make a good marriage" I think the same goes for divorce, especially if you have kids. If you are both willing to think of the kids first, they can have a stable and fulfilling childhood and before I forget, much credit goes to Jameson’s mom for the sacrifices she made. She turned down 2 very well paid promotions because she didn’t want to move him away from me. I owe her a debt of gratitude.

In the future I’ll try and sprinkle in some funny stories to lighten the mood. My son and I share a rather unique sense of humor. Hopefully you will think its funny too.